Question Of The Week
Remember when...? You fill in the blank! Each Cup Of Timer think of a point in your lives that you wish to relive through rememberance and ask your mom, dad, daughter, son, husband or wife if they remember. Relieve it together! It even works with Jesus! Don't be surprised if you here Him ask you a question of rememberance as well!
Remember to keep your Cup Of Time out in plain view because that old saying which most of us know, is true: "Out of sight is ..." Yes you finished it "...out of MIND." When you see your COT you will remember to set and keep that date to communicate!
It really works!
This just in from one of our Cup Of Timers
Thank you Cup Of Time!!!
My husband and I got into an ongoing argument. I let my fleshly mind
get to me as I stormed off into the room to avoid him and the
conversation. As I sat there on the bed with my mind running with all
these negative thoughts I heard a still small voice say "Cup Of
Time"... it then became an "AHA!" moment! I went out into the living
room knowing I have seen the Husband-Wife Cup Of Time Set sitting on
the bookshelf. I then picked both of them up and slammed the husband
one down right in front of my husband. (you could say I was still
upset lol) My husband then did a little chuckle and said "Not sure if
I want to do this now". Of course I knew he was joking because he
could sense the urgency that his wife needed to talk.
My husband requested mountain dew and I had pepsi max in my cup. As we
sat on the couch in silence for the first couple minutes it seemed so
hard to talk about the same argument we have had multiple times. I
than began to speak; my husband has NEVER been good at communicating..
EVER.. when it comes to talking about what is on his mind or his
"feelings" it is a complete shut out. So after I started I asked him
questions to help me understand what he was feeling, after a couple of
tries my husband then spoke. It was such a moving forward point for us
that it truly brought me to tears. He had felt things that I would
have never known, also that I never intended for him to feel. Once
everything was out on the table we both felt like a ton of bricks was
then lifted off our shoulders! It was then during that moment I
realized how vital Cup Of Time is. If the set was never put on the
bookshelf like suggested, I would have never remembered we had it. If
we never took the time to sit, talk and listen we would have never had
our moving forward point...
Thank you Cup Of Time for reminding me on the importance of spending
time talking and LISTENING to my husband. We have been a whole
different couple since our last Cup Of Time.
Every one Every Occasion
Remember Cup Of Time for those gift needs as we enter the holiday season...and for any reason actually. My husband and I just returned home from visiting his family in Colorado for his grand fathers' 90th birthday. He received a Cup Of Time with Jesus and literally was HOLDING back tears after he read the communication/prayer guide that comes along with it. It was so heart warming to see this man of 90 years of LIFE...through a war, many moves around the world, deaths, and births and...you name it, he has bean through it! To see him just thoroughly enjoy this gift was just priceless!
His mother also bought our mom/daughter set for her oldest daughter, Jessica, saying "We have become so focused on Evie (her grand daughter, our neice) that we don't take time for each other. Its the quick drop off and pick up...and not much more."
Imagine for...who...what...when? Cup Of Time! It is catching on!
Cup Of Time with Jesus
During my Cup Of Time with Jesus, HE shared a mark which we all need to get better with...eliminate really. It is true NONE of us is perfect AND it is true that HE expects us to WORK at becoming perfect (cut our flesh).
HE showed me something marvelous in the Book of Samuel. Most Christians know many pieces of this Book by heart.
HE has illuminated the portion in the beginning when Hannah was desperately praying for our Lord to allow her womb to conceive a man child. Starting in chapter 1 verse 12 : and it came to pass, as she continued praying before the Lord, that Eli (the priest) marked her mouth (noticed and judged) 13: Now Hannah, she spoke in her heart; only her lips moved, but her voice was not heard: therefore Eli THOUGHT she had been drunk. 14: and Eli said to her, How long will you be drunken? Put away your wine from you. 15: and Hannah answered and said, No my lord, I a woman of a sorrowful spirit: I have drunken neither wine nor strong drink, but have poured out my soul before the Lord. 16: Count not your handmaid for a daughter of Belial: for out of the abundance of my complaint and grief have I spoken hitherto. 17: Then Eli answered and said, Go in peace: and petition that you have asked of HIM. 18: And she said, Let your handmaid find grace in your sight. So the woman went her way, and did eat and her countenance (appearance) was no more. (Changed)
Our God instructs us most clearly multiple times throughout the Epistles (letters) how we are to communicate and not communicate. Here we have Eli who SAW the state of Hannah and did not SPEAK to her, assuming she to be drunk. It is only when he SPOKE to her that he learned THE TRUTH. His THOUGHT caused him to misjudge her. Eli (the priest) had her pegged by what he SAW and condemned her to be a daughter of satan. He could not have been more wrong! Had he not SPOKE with Hannah she would have been MARKED in this priests mind and those that he told, as something she was far from.
What a GLORIOUS example for all of us. A caution and instruction of what to do and what not to do in a few simple little verses that bring about a GREAT WORKS of God. How many TIMES do we see something and think this... And judge that...? It is a habit we must all break. God says - judge and you will be judged! Now there is a difference between JUDGEMENT and TRUTH. We can and should state the TRUTH in all things, this is how CHANGE occurs, this is how we are moved to repentance, but we MUST FIRST make sure it is TRUE and that we are in Gods' WILL to share it- we will only be "asked" to share if it glorifies HIS Body. Do you see?
What I THINK can NOT be portrayed as TRUTH unless it is WITNESSED. We see here that the FIRST WITNESS is that person I am SPEAKING to or THINKING about.
We must always SPEAK TO people verses speaking ABOUT people. We must stop our brain from concluding THOUGHTS about one another. What I THINK is potentially and most probably UNTRUE about you. Untruth is a lie! Our THOUGHTs are the single most powerful thing that blocks the perfect WILL of GOD for this reason and many more.
Also notice the order! God has an ORDER for all things. When we do things according to HIS order MIRACULOUSNESS will follow, saith our LORD.
Solution: Aways TALK TO people. If you find yourself and others talking ABOUT people, Ex: "She should have..." "Did you see how he...?" STOP! It is against God to talk about one another for the purpose of discord. (Ephesians 4:25, 4:29-32)
GOD is TRUTH is LOVE these THREE are ONE
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Cup Of Time with Torrie
I have been blessed with a daughter from another mother. She is fantastic! Her father and mother have done a great job. She has been a gift from God for my son who will tell you himself, that he prayed for a wife and knew instantly it was Torrie when they met. God gave me the daughter I never had through her fine parents and my son.
During our last few Cup Of Times I have realized a few things. First, no matter how old we are we can and do, learn as long as we are open. I also realized that she is more special than I knew the TIME before. I realized gifts are packaged in many, many ways and LOVE grows with TIME.
She is a joy to speak with and when I reserve TIME for her, she knows I am LISTENING which opens up a dialogue that is not reachable during the day to day ins and outs. Thank YOU LORD for our Cup Of Time together!
Are you listening to your family? Do they know you are? Make sure with Cup Of Time.
Cup Of Time With Jesus
People that love the ocean know it speaks continually in numerous ways. Each wave is different on purpose and volumes are spoken.
Cup Of Time keeps in tune with our human relationships. Those that we hold dear need our undivided attention on a regular basis.
We are passionate about families. Husbands and wives enjoying all that they are. Daughters aspiring to be the best they can be and dads knowing what that is. Moms eager to cultivate the best her son will become.
Cup Of Time is a movement to remind us all that verbal communication came before electronics. Just as the salt of the ocean is essential for its purpose, TIME listening and talking with the voice God gave us is as well. HE designed us on purpose too. What volumes are being spoken in your family?
June 01st, 2016
Our time at JDMS has progressed nicely. Each week we have more students. The increase is slow but God knows what we can handle while still being effective. If we are not effective then what's the point, right?
So Emily and Priscilla have come every day. It is exciting to see them grow in confidence in themselves and when dealing with others. It is amazing what a few hours a week of one on one time has done for them.
What is equally exciting is they have brought friends. More and more friends.
It is TIME for a Cup of Time
I had an orthodontist appointment this morning. One of the assistance asked me if I had plans for the weekend. I told her about our event in Ocalla Florida for Cup Of Time. She quickly came on board stating, "Oh I love this! It is so necessary. People don't know how to talk anymore. Constantly on those phones! II talk about this all the time with my..." She and I continued going back-and-forth on how much relationships suffer because of interferences and distractions. This is why no distractions, no interruptions is one of Cup Of Times nonnegotiable rules! :-)
We bonded together even further on the fact that men tend to think "How was your day?" while passing each other, equates to a meaningful conversation. "Yeah, especially when you answer 'good' and they're just like OK and walk on. I am like what you don't want to know the details?"
We then spoke about how the younger generation barely knows how to make eye contact anymore. She stating; "I say to everyone ok let's get off our phones...leave the phone alone and a short time later, each time, they are back on the phones!"
As I replied, "Isn't it amazing how addictive they are?" And she answered "Yes they are" I realized she was quite young herself and it gave me hope because the number of people of ALL generations that find value in Cup Of Time is growing!
One of the other things she mentioned was people playing electronic games when you are right there with them. And it struck me hard because I have always had difficulty with this, my family playing on their phone while in the company of others. Until the game called SOLITAIRE was specifically mentioned the reason was not quite clear to me! And here it is now:
Playing on ones phone in the presence of others creates a separation even while in the direct PRESENCE of others. Do you see? We are together- separate!
It is equal to before most everyone had their own phones when someone would just flat out ignore you while you were right in the room. Only more subtle because they appear to be working on something. Just plane rude, right? We wouldn't be allowed to do that then. For what reason are we allowing our loved ones to do it now? Because they hold it in their hands? It just doesn't make sense does it?
Solitary is NOT good for socialization. When we are WITH others we are supposed to be WITH them. The outcome is FEELING alone when we are NOT alone. We FEEL like it not only because the attentiveness is gone but because this behavior says people really don't want to spend that TIME together. Wether the opposite is true or not. So you see?
Don't sell your relationships short. Reserve your TIME to remind your loved ones how much they mean to you with Cup Of Time.
Smiles and God bless!
Talk Tip follow up
Yesterday my almost 25 year old son and I shared a Cup Of Time. How do I express adequately what I received from it? Somehow rememicising about it with you all now is causing me to be emotional, to the point of tears. I say "somehow" but actually I know exactly how! Because it was special! He made me feel so special as his mom because HE took TIME to talk to ME alone.
There is a big difference between talking everyday, as we come and go and time zips bu. a big difference between that and RESERVING TIME to talk. Reserving TIME, one on one, with NO interruptions brings communication to a whole new level of love!
I keep seeing his all grown up face smiling as he answered that question: "Do you remember when we used to go to Missouri every year for your birthday?" "Of course I do." he said.
I keep hearing his grown up voice relive our most special moments. It has given me this movie in my memory that flips from yesterday to years ago. I can actually see and hear him in those moments and this moment, one glimpse at a TIME. Little Kody to big Kody back and forth in my mind and heart. PRICELESS!
Cup Of Timers be sure to Reserve and KEEP the time you have reserved. Parents, don't let your children off the hook- they need it probably more then we do. Talking with us is very good practice for them to talk with their spouses. Wouldn't you like to see the divorce rate go down? Remember Cup Of Time for Anniversaries, Weddings, MOTHERs Day!
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