Stand up straight. No matter how tall or vertically challenged you are, stand up straight. Our pasture speaks volumes to the world.
In order to get the best posture remember to roll your shoulders back, drop them and slightly lift your head. To engage your spine, tighten your gluteal muscles. For those who don't know, your gluteal muscles make up your BE-hind! (Hee! Hee) Next engage your abdominal muscles. (Engage by tightening them) Then roll back your shoulders, drop them and lift your head!
I was reminded recently of the GASH acronym. Gluts-Abs-Shoulders-Head Gluts- Abs-Shoulders-Head
Standing up straight communicates to the world that you are ready, confident and going places. Is your body speaking truth about you? Is it speaking what you desire?
Come on everybody! Glutes-Abs-Shoulders-Head! Glutes-Abs-Shoulders-Head! Glutes-Abs-Shoulders-Head! Louder...more confidant...you can do it!
And remember to help those around you. Try something like this: "Your height is amazing! Did you know we look more confidant and attractive when we embrace our height?...Ya it's true, when we roll our shoulders back and lift our head ever so slightly we convey confidence and look more attractive. Try it with me!" (If you know them well enough and have enough time do the whole GASH deal.)
Nice job! Glutes-Abs-Shoulders-Head!
There are three primary styles of communication.
Passive, assertive, and aggressive are the three primary communication styles. Only One style of communication is good. It is the One that is in the middle- assertive. Which type of communicator are you? Before you answer that ask a few family members what they think your primary style of communication is.
Let this be your next topic of communication with your cup of time partner.
Here are the definitions of each:
Passive- ineffective, rarely getting out what you really mean
Assertive - effective and respectful Aggressive- harsh, not respectful of others, bull headed.
Knowing these definitions...now how do you categorize yourself?
Passive- Assertive - Aggressive. The best style is in the middle. Let's all work to be more assertive in our communications, not just with God and our family members, but with everyone we encounter in our lives. Amen!?!
Communication is essential for every relationship. The more we listen to each other, the more we understand each other. Electronic voices are not human. Remember to use the wonderful mouth God gave you. Do you speak more frequently the electronics (the unnatural voice) or verbally (our God given natural voice)?
What was your success today? If you do Cup Od Time weekly, what was your success of the week? Sharing each other's successes brings on more of the same.
Remember all Cup Of Time gatherings do not have to be serious conversations. In fact sometimes we need to ask silly questions in order to go deeper or break the ice. This weeks question - What would you do if...? You fill in the blank and ask it in as many variations as each of you wish. Like what would you do if somebody surprised you with a smashed pie in the face? What would you do if you earned the biggest bonus at your job? What would you do if you woke up one day and your car was a different color? What would you do if God were "standing" right in front of you? What would you do if your best friend from grade school called you after years of separation? What would you do if a bird dookied on your head? What would you do if...?
As part of this movement, we encourage Cup Of Timers to bring their drinking vessels to coffee shops and have a special moment in one of your favorite spots while saving that coffee cup waste. Strong families create strong communities that unify to make their environment great. If being in public creates too many distractions, avoid making this the norm.
What was your happiest moment moment last week? Your most joyful moment in life? Joy is different than happiness. Happiness lasts for a brief time. Joy lasts forever and we find in the Lord. Husbands and wives answer those questions for your marriage. No matter what your answers are make a strategy, a plan together to have more moments that are happy which will lead to JOY.
Listening is required in order for communication to be complete. Our rediculous business has created a culture of half listeners. Complete attention tells your loved one that you care. This is why we at Cup Of Time recommend removing all distractions. Every time you share a Cup Of Time with your other half will not be an earth moving emotional experience. We do hope your conversations will be deep. In order for this to happen your people need to know they are important. Be sure you are listening! (Eye contact, engaged in conversation, avoid interruptions...If you are afraid you will forget your point, like me, have a notebook close by and jot it down.)
One thing that I've noticed over the course of time is that we don't know how to teach our kids about modesty. My mom passed away when I was in my mid 20s. She did teach me about Modesty. She corrected me when she saw that I was exposing too much skin. She did it in a very delicate yet instructive way. I was corrected in her love for me.
I did not know then what I know now: men are visual people. God made them that way. Men are led/fed by what they see. My pastor that baptized me in Elkhorn, Wisconsin once said to my husband, Jeremiah, "make the first look a good one, it is the second look that's the sin." See the first look is natural (The way God made us). The second time is a choice to look. It's a conscious decision and signifies a condition of the heart, most often times lust. Ever been on a date and your man kept looking at somebody else? We get angry because of that choice to look, which is lust which is sin. If a man can not keep his eyes off of...it is lust. Do you see? If they only looked once (natural) we would not even get mad, because it is natural. Most of us would probably even agree - that the woman is beautiful. Don't be fooled ladies, you were not over reacting or too sensitive or...! It is not ok for them to do that and when we are completely honest, if our man has a wandering eye - we REALLY do not like it.
Just as it is not ok for our men to lust, it is also not ok for us to dress in a fashion that causes them to lust. Our men being visual creatures is a reason why it is important for us ladies, to look our best.
When I was unconscious about the things of God I dressed provocatively. After I was baptized, I went through an almost Amish time period. Lol and true! And then boy oh boy, I went through a phase of 'Who did it and whatever for!?!' I know now that God was molding me.
I have come to understand that the answer is in the middle. Our Lord is not a dictator. We are to obey HIS commandments. This is clear when we read HIS Word. There isn't specifics about dress in the Bible (except that men are not dress like women and vice versa). How to be sure we are hitting the mark - ask yourself this: When you dress who do you aim to please? The world; do you want to keep up with Hollywood? The Kardashians? (Yikes!) Or do you aim to please God? There is a big difference in what God and Hollywood says is fine - in fact Hollywood says anything goes now a days, right? And we just know this is not good. We went from looking good for the one that we love to "I need to look good for everybody." We went from wanting to look pleasing in our own eyes to "I want everybody to approve me." It's a crisis. For most, this style of dress has happened little by little overtime. For others dressing provocatively is/was deliberate. No matter what the case is, the bare minimum style of dress is a sign that lust is out of control in our world.
Talk to your kids. No matter how old they are. Talk to them about modesty and what it can do for ones self esteem- for ones soul.
Do you remember when stilettos used to be worn only by hookers? Did you know this fact? If your children are younger and you did not teach them then they don't know. The mass majority of Media does not teach the significance of the heel origin! Funny (lol) and true! When they were first brought into the world it signified you were "loose". Loose meant a conglomerate of things such as open to sin. Every hooker wore them. The world has made them fashionable. But the origin is something quite different. Miniskirts, see-through shirts... All of that. Even leggings/yoga pants, skin tight jeans. Hello! Skin is the keyword here. They are as tight as your skin-so they show everything-meaning there's no Modesty in them. Immodesty causes lust in the eyes of the men around us.
Time and exposure to the marketing of this style of dress as being cool, beautiful, HOT (hell is HOT people!) has brought us far from modesty. Twisted what is true.
The ideas that immodesty is cool does not change the fact that how I dress can create desire, lust, covetous in the eyes of others. The way we dress draws attention, period. One of the commandments is LOVE thy neighbor as thyself. Am I loving if I contribute to the lust factor in this world?
Be confident in your right as a parent to speak to your children about Modesty. Our innocence, their innocence is truly worth much more than the price of gold.
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