I had an orthodontist appointment this morning. One of the assistance asked me if I had plans for the weekend. I told her about our event in Ocalla Florida for Cup Of Time. She quickly came on board stating, "Oh I love this! It is so necessary. People don't know how to talk anymore. Constantly on those phones! II talk about this all the time with my..." She and I continued going back-and-forth on how much relationships suffer because of interferences and distractions. This is why no distractions, no interruptions is one of Cup Of Times nonnegotiable rules! :-)
We bonded together even further on the fact that men tend to think "How was your day?" while passing each other, equates to a meaningful conversation. "Yeah, especially when you answer 'good' and they're just like OK and walk on. I am like what you don't want to know the details?"
We then spoke about how the younger generation barely knows how to make eye contact anymore. She stating; "I say to everyone ok let's get off our phones...leave the phone alone and a short time later, each time, they are back on the phones!"
As I replied, "Isn't it amazing how addictive they are?" And she answered "Yes they are" I realized she was quite young herself and it gave me hope because the number of people of ALL generations that find value in Cup Of Time is growing!
One of the other things she mentioned was people playing electronic games when you are right there with them. And it struck me hard because I have always had difficulty with this, my family playing on their phone while in the company of others. Until the game called SOLITAIRE was specifically mentioned the reason was not quite clear to me! And here it is now:
Playing on ones phone in the presence of others creates a separation even while in the direct PRESENCE of others. Do you see? We are together- separate!
It is equal to before most everyone had their own phones when someone would just flat out ignore you while you were right in the room. Only more subtle because they appear to be working on something. Just plane rude, right? We wouldn't be allowed to do that then. For what reason are we allowing our loved ones to do it now? Because they hold it in their hands? It just doesn't make sense does it?
Solitary is NOT good for socialization. When we are WITH others we are supposed to be WITH them. The outcome is FEELING alone when we are NOT alone. We FEEL like it not only because the attentiveness is gone but because this behavior says people really don't want to spend that TIME together. Wether the opposite is true or not. So you see?
Don't sell your relationships short. Reserve your TIME to remind your loved ones how much they mean to you with Cup Of Time.
Smiles and God bless!